Tuesday, 19 March 2013

The difference between 'right' and 'wrong'

Sometimes in life we take all the right turns, open all the right doors and sing all the right words. Sometimes we don’t.

Sometimes in life we listen at all the right times, be in all the right places and press all the right buttons. Sometimes we don’t.

Sometimes in life we do everything right. Most of the time we don’t.

I want to talk about when we don’t do what’s right.

What’s ‘right’ can be dressed up in so many different ways. The correct, or sensible way of living or the ethical and moral way of making decisions. Whatever you consider ‘right’ to be, makes you, you.

The basic outlines of right and wrong are instilled in us at a young age and yet we learn what really is right and wrong as we grow. These can be some of the toughest lessons we ever learn.

You see if we simply lived our lives on the basis of what we know as right and wrong, well we’d have a pretty simple legal system. But, we don’t, because feelings get in the way. Whether it’s revenge, anger, happiness, pure passion or love – it get’s in the way.

Think of life as if you’re looking through a window. A window that’s just been cleaned means we can see clearly, things are in perspective, and nothing is distorted. But as we all know weathering different storms changes that. It can fog up our judgement; change the way we look at things. Sometimes for a short while, sometimes for a lifetime.

It might already be obvious, just by the fact I am writing this, that I’ve not exactly made the right decision as of late. I hope you’re not here to pass judgement, as I would never do the same to anyone who’d made a mistake.

I believe that mistakes can be dressed up as so many things. You might think that you’re the doing the ‘right’ thing. You might even know you’re not doing what is entirely ‘right’, but you think it the best thing you can do.

If you’re anything like me, you might one day decide that you’re not going to make all the ‘right’ decisions for a change. You make a snap decision based on how the ‘wrong’ things make you feel and then it’s too late; you’ve made a ‘wrong’ decision.

I always say to anyone who comes to me for advice: don’t apologise for your feelings. You have every right to feel exactly how you feel in your head and heart. You can pretend and camouflage what’s going on inside, but how you feel is how you feel – there’s no lying to yourself, not really.

If you’re struggling with what’s the ‘right’ and ‘wrong’ thing to do, I’ll pose you a question: In 50 years time, would you smile about it, laugh at it or not even remember it?

Live. Laugh. Love